Boundaries are your birthright, truly. But as a woman in this world, and even more, if ou are the daughter of a narcissistic mother, you were taught from birth that you are not allowed to have boundaries. Or, at best, limited boundaries. People can treat you as they want and you can't stop them. You spend your life on their terms: helping where it doesn't suit you, hosting people you don't want to host, spending money you don't want to spend, answering questions you don't want to answer: the list goes on.
Well, that needs to change, and that will change.
You need to become the Boss of You, and you CAN become the boss of you.
However, if it was possible for you now, you'd be doing it already. So why aren't you?
The problem is two-fold:
You don't truly believe that you can set boundaries, that it's okay for you to do so, and
You don't know how to set and enforce boundaries in a way that avoids conflict and drama, and actually works.
And, you know how the old saying has it: if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you always get.
If you don't make changes, this is the way it'll be for the rest of your life: you being a People-Pleasing Passive Pushover. After all, the way things are now suits the toxic ones very well, so they're hardly going to change, are they?
So, if there are going to be changes, it has to be you making them.
And Become A Boundaries Badass* is exactly how you do that.
(*And if you're triggered by the word 'badass', then you definitely need this book.)
Once you have gone through this book and absorbed the material, you will finally, and forever, be in charge of your own life. People will respect your time, your energy, your decisions. You'll be doing better in your own life because you'll be focused on that, not on everyone else's needs. Not that you will become selfish or uncaring, not one bit. It's just that you will share and help others in the way you want to, when you want to, for as long as you want to.
Here's just one email I got about Become A Boundaries Badass:
"I was lucky enough to read this book when I was struggling to set boundaries around my plans for the Holidays – overwhelmed with guilt for wanting to put my own wishes first, feeling immense pressure to please others at the expense of my own health, struggling to follow through on anything I really wanted to do. Reading and digesting Danu's words of wisdom allowed me to say an empowered NO to the comfortable – but ultimately destructive – people-pleasing, and to prioritise my own needs with confidence. A truly life changing book."
H.P., London, UK
