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Breaking Bad Habits
What Actually Stops Behaviors You've Tried to Quit Three Times Already
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Breaking bad habits, stopping addictions, and changing behavior that willpower alone can't fix: a 25-year addiction
psychologist reveals what actually works - and why your previous quit attempts failed.
READY
If you've tried to quit three times already and the habit is still running your life, the problem is not your character. In her first book for
general readers, Dr. Margaux Stein - an addiction psychologist with nearly twenty-five years of clinical practice - opens the way
she opens every first session: "Nothing is wrong with you. Willpower isn't what stops habits. Trying to defeat them by deciding harder
is like trying to stop a river by yelling at it." That single reframe, grounded in neuroscience, changes what you need to do next.
Breaking Bad Habits is built on two things no other popular habit-change book combines: the general machinery of how any habit
becomes entrenched - cue-routine-reward loops, dopamine pathways, the basal ganglia, why relapse is data not failure - and
habit-specific chapters that go deeper than generic advice. Your phone is not your drinking. Drinking is not gambling. Gambling is not
compulsive shopping. This book covers all of them, in succession, telling you what is specifically tricky about each one and what tends
to actually work. The final chapters address the questions that arise no matter which habit brought you here: moderation versus
abstinence, cold turkey versus tapering, how to involve other people, when a therapist or doctor is essential, how to design your
environment so the habit can't run, and what the quieter life on the other side actually looks like.
Inside this habit-change and addiction recovery guide:
Why willpower keeps failing you - the neuroscience of habits shows they live in a different brain system than decisions;
fighting with effort is the wrong tool entirely
The five gaps in cue-routine-reward - what the standard model misses: identity, context dependency, cumulative load, and the
dual-process feedback that makes early sobriety cravings intensify
Habit-specific chapters on 11 behaviors - phone and screens, alcohol, food, nicotine and vaping, cannabis, pornography,
gambling (including day-trading and crypto), compulsive shopping, overwork, lying, and procrastination
Relapse as data, not failure - how to debrief a lapse, patch the specific gap it revealed, and distinguish a single slip from an
extended return to the pattern
Environmental design as the highest-leverage tool - room-by-room audits, digital friction strategies, financial environment
controls, and why this beats willpower around the clock
The first ninety days, specifically - a week-by-week account of what to expect so each phase doesn't feel like personal failure,
including the deceptively dangerous second month
When to involve a clinician or medication - which substances require medical supervision before stopping, which medications
are dramatically underused, and how to find low-cost help
Whether your habit is on the milder end - a phone scroll eating two hours of your evening - or closer to the addiction end of the
spectrum, this book gives you the clarity that willpower never could: clarity about what your habit is doing for you, why your previous
attempts didn't stick, which interventions match your specific behavior, and how to build a life the habit doesn't fit easily into. Most
habit-change books treat every behavior with the same seven principles. This one doesn't, because your drinking isn't your gambling,
and both deserve more than generic advice.
For readers of Charles Duhigg's The Power of Habit and Annie Grace's This Naked Mind.--
psychologist reveals what actually works - and why your previous quit attempts failed.
READY
If you've tried to quit three times already and the habit is still running your life, the problem is not your character. In her first book for
general readers, Dr. Margaux Stein - an addiction psychologist with nearly twenty-five years of clinical practice - opens the way
she opens every first session: "Nothing is wrong with you. Willpower isn't what stops habits. Trying to defeat them by deciding harder
is like trying to stop a river by yelling at it." That single reframe, grounded in neuroscience, changes what you need to do next.
Breaking Bad Habits is built on two things no other popular habit-change book combines: the general machinery of how any habit
becomes entrenched - cue-routine-reward loops, dopamine pathways, the basal ganglia, why relapse is data not failure - and
habit-specific chapters that go deeper than generic advice. Your phone is not your drinking. Drinking is not gambling. Gambling is not
compulsive shopping. This book covers all of them, in succession, telling you what is specifically tricky about each one and what tends
to actually work. The final chapters address the questions that arise no matter which habit brought you here: moderation versus
abstinence, cold turkey versus tapering, how to involve other people, when a therapist or doctor is essential, how to design your
environment so the habit can't run, and what the quieter life on the other side actually looks like.
Inside this habit-change and addiction recovery guide:
Why willpower keeps failing you - the neuroscience of habits shows they live in a different brain system than decisions;
fighting with effort is the wrong tool entirely
The five gaps in cue-routine-reward - what the standard model misses: identity, context dependency, cumulative load, and the
dual-process feedback that makes early sobriety cravings intensify
Habit-specific chapters on 11 behaviors - phone and screens, alcohol, food, nicotine and vaping, cannabis, pornography,
gambling (including day-trading and crypto), compulsive shopping, overwork, lying, and procrastination
Relapse as data, not failure - how to debrief a lapse, patch the specific gap it revealed, and distinguish a single slip from an
extended return to the pattern
Environmental design as the highest-leverage tool - room-by-room audits, digital friction strategies, financial environment
controls, and why this beats willpower around the clock
The first ninety days, specifically - a week-by-week account of what to expect so each phase doesn't feel like personal failure,
including the deceptively dangerous second month
When to involve a clinician or medication - which substances require medical supervision before stopping, which medications
are dramatically underused, and how to find low-cost help
Whether your habit is on the milder end - a phone scroll eating two hours of your evening - or closer to the addiction end of the
spectrum, this book gives you the clarity that willpower never could: clarity about what your habit is doing for you, why your previous
attempts didn't stick, which interventions match your specific behavior, and how to build a life the habit doesn't fit easily into. Most
habit-change books treat every behavior with the same seven principles. This one doesn't, because your drinking isn't your gambling,
and both deserve more than generic advice.
For readers of Charles Duhigg's The Power of Habit and Annie Grace's This Naked Mind.--