Partners experience dire consequences as a result of being in a relationship with someone suffering from compulsive sexual behavior. Their emotional well-being requires developing new skill sets for self-care and self-protection as they confront the difficult and painful process of discovery, disclosure, and beyond. In other words-they need boundaries. This is the first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Moving Beyond Betrayal guides partners to define the current problem(s); identify needs that aren't being met; find where they have the power to effect change; take action; and evaluate the results to determine if their goal has been accomplished. The author examines all aspects of effective boundary work, including what to do when boundaries are violated. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will: Gain clarity; Reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction; Feel more empowered and in control of their lives; Discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable.
"Vicki Tidwell Palmer explains in a straightforward, useful way both why and how betrayed partners can set meaningful and empowering boundaries--limits that can aid not only their own healing, but also that of the addict and their relationship. This book is a must read for anyone who has been negatively affected by a loved one's sexually addictive behavior."
Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, Founder of the Sexual Recovery Institute and author of Sex Add
"The sexual betrayal partners of sex addicts experience is extremely difficult to overcome. It's easy to get stuck in the victim position, resentment, and reactivity. This splendid work by Vicki Tidwell Palmer provides a step-by-step process that will help partners of sex addicts move out of the trauma and into a more profound sense of intimacy with their partners. A wonderful read!"
Pia Mellody, Senior Clinical Advisor for The Meadows and author of Facing Codependence, Fa
"Finally. THE book to help partners of sex addicts reclaim the most powerful part of their life after suffering from intimate betrayal. Following Tidwell Palmers' compassionate, no-nonsense guidance will insure the discovery of a vital, healthy sense of self."
Alexandra Katehakis, Founder and Clinical Director, Center for Healthy Sex, and co-author
